[Blog Post] Five INEFFECTIVE Ways to deal with Stress, Fear and Worry.

Why on earth start with what is ineffective?

Good question!

Let me explain.

Often when we run into trouble it is because we are using strategies that don’t work.

But – and this is the important pointwe don’t know that they don’t work

We are unaware.

If this is the case change can only come when two things occur.

(1) It dawns upon us that what we are doing doesn’t work

(2) and this opens us to something different

This is my aim with this article.

I want to make you aware of strategies that are ineffective as far as stress, fear and worry are concerned.

And alert you to the possibility of finding strategies that are effective.

Is that a deal?

Great!

Let’s dive into those ineffective strategies so that you can get to know them and avoid them from now on.

These are the five strategies that will either prolong or increase your stress, fear and anxiety.

(1) First Ineffective Strategy: Denying It

 

The famous psychologist Dr. Phil always says:

You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.”

Stress and anxiety can slowly creep in on us without us even realizing it.

Maybe we do not even realize the many changes that happened to us over the past six to twelve months. So they accumulate.

Maybe during those stressful events you didn’t allow yourself to fully acknowledge the change. You denied the effect it had on you.

And it is still difficult for you to acknowledge it now.

This strategy may work in the short-term, but in the long-term it will not serve you well.

Remember as Dr. Phil says:

You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.”

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(2) Second Ineffective Strategy: Suppressing It

 

This one may sound similar to the first, but it is slightly different.

In this case, you are aware of your stress, fear and tension. However, you see it as the enemy. Therefore, as soon as it rears its head you fight it.

You just want it to go away.

The truth is the more you fight fear and anxiety the stronger it will become. If you suppress it you give it the fuel it needs to grow even stronger.

Again, in the long-run this is not a strategy that will work. It may be helpful in the short-term.

If you wish to deal better with stress and anxiety you need to work with it differently than trying to fight it.

 

(3) Third Ineffective Strategy: You Give In To It

We all find different ways to cope with life circumstances.

Some of these strategies are helpful while others are not that great.

I know that the physical sensations of stress, fear and worry are not pleasant at all. Nobody likes  tense shoulders, that hollow feeling in the pit of your stomach and a pounding heart.

So, we naturally try to escape them.

In fact all five strategies that I mention in this article are ways we escape these unpleasant physical sensations.

One way in which we may try to escape them is by avoiding any situation that causes us to feel stressed, anxious or fearful.

We may even go as far as to avoid the very experiences that meet our human needs just to avoid those uncomfortable feelings.

However, when we give in to our stress, fear and worry through avoidance behaviours we actually increase them and fuel their fires.

 

(4) Fourth Ineffective Strategy: Letting It Run On Autopilot

Recent brain research has shown that we don’t have any control over the initial stressful and fearful thoughts that pop into our brain.

They originate in the more primitive part of our brain. This part’s main function is to keep you safe. Sometimes, it can work overtime and take over our lives.

Luckily, evolution also endowed us with the gift of a higher brain. Our higher brain can override the primitive one if we consciously do so.

Even more importantly it can re-wire our brain in a way that makes us less stressed, fearful and worried.

What is important to know is that if you let those negative thoughts and feelings run on autopilot it strengthens the pathways in the brain that create them.

So letting negative thoughts and feelings run on autopilot is not a good idea.

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(5) Fifth Ineffective Strategy: Not Taking Time Out

 

We all know the feeling.

We realize that we are stressed.

We feel the stress responses of our bodies.

  • the palpitating heart

  • the faster that normal breathing

  • and racing thoughts

But we just don’t want to face those feelings. We just can’t get ourselves to sit still. It is as though something is driving us.

Here is the reality though:

The more stressed you are the more time out you need”

If you are seriously stressed, your obsessive busyness will only fuel the part of you brain that drives more and more stress hormones into your bloodstream.

The Cost

Now that we have covered the five ineffective strategies for dealing with stress, fear and worry; let us also briefly consider the cost of continuing down this path.

When under stress we produce two powerful hormones called adrenaline and cortisol.

They are your body’s alarm system and gets your

  • heart to beat faster,

  • muscles to tighten,

  • blood pressure to rise,

  • breath to quicken

  • and your senses to become sharper and more focussed.

If this response becomes chronic it poisons your system.

It is at this point that stress start to harm your

  • health

  • mood

  • productivity

  • relationships

  • quality of life

Chronic stress impacts on almost all the systems in your body. It:

  • causes high blood pressure

  • suppresses the immune system

  • increases the risk of a heart attack, stroke or cancer

  • changes your mood

  • causes ulcers

  • causes migraines

  • causes insomnia

  • brings on chronic anxiety

Reading all of the above, you can see how wise it is to learn better ways of dealing with stress, fear and worry than the five ineffective strategies I shared with you in this article.

There IS another way.

 (NOTE): Want to know how you can deal with stress, anxiety & worry in a better way?
CLICK HERE to download my FREE eBook “Use Awareness To Rewire Your Brain – 5 keys to conquer mental habits that make you miserable”